Because I Said So

Please, take responsibility!

I don't know if it's just me, or what, but I keep coming across people who just can't take responsibility for the actions or behaviors. I have grown completely tired of these people. I simply don't understand them or their crazy methodology. I used to know this one person, with whom I eventually cut ties because I couldn't stand it anymore. He was the epitome of irresponsibility. He absolutely refused to take responsibility for the consequences of his actions. He always, and I mean always, blamed it on the other person. He would claim that the outcome was the other person's problem because they chose to put themselves in the situation to begin with. He eventually became the ultimate "projector". He continuously accused other people of behaving in the same manner in which he was behaving. When someone actually dared to call him on it, he would get defensive and incredibly nasty. I'll give you an example of his irresponsibility. He went out with this woman for about six months or so. Although he supposedly got along great with her, and really cared about her, he dumped her because he was grossed out by the fact that she was overweight. Very mature, I know. Anyway, so he continued to hang out with her on a regular basis, as friends. She told him many times that she was still in love with him and was hoping for a reconciliation. When told that it was kind of not cool to hang out with her at this point, he responded by saying that he liked spending time with her. He didn't feel he should have to give up someone he liked simply because she had feelings for him. The feelings were her problem. Yes, he really believed that. It never occurred to him that when you care about someone, sometimes you have to do what's best for them because they can't see it themselves. His ex was too wrapped up in her feelings and false hope to see that he would never want her in that way. And I can tell you that he does have a major problem with keeping his hands to himself. He is a really bad flirt, so I'm sure he was selfishly feeding her hope. He honestly did not care if he was hurting her or not. He felt that if she couldn't handle it, then she should be the one to stop seeing him. I just don't understand that mentality at all. I would never do something that I knew was hurting another person. So, anyway, two years later, he's still hanging out with her and she's still telling him she loves him. I don't know if this guy is just stupid, or totally ignorant. Actually, yes I do. He is conveniently ignorant. I can't stand ignorance either. Well, now you can see why I told this person where to go with himself! It just seems that more and more of these people are popping up these days. Everyone from Bush to the Joe Blow next door. The world is going to hell in a hand basket, I tell ya! (And no, I am not the ex in the example.)

tirade by Jenster at 5:41 PM